I was in a bit of a funk today. My brain was playing its eternal what-am-I-doing-with-my-life monologue and I decided to settle it once and for all. So I went online and took a bunch of BuzzFeed quizzes to chart my own career path. Turns out I’m born to be a surgeon. Or a chef. Or a restaurant owner. Okay, close enough.
Armed with that expert knowledge, I tried to work out if I could indeed be somebody in this lifetime. When I was in school I had a clear vision about what I wanted to be — an award- winning journalist. I had to first tackle engineering though because that’s a rite of passage as far as my family is concerned. My grades were stellar all through school but in college I slipped majorly. I was a flunkie student with arrears the first two years.
I wanted to drop out of college, work at a cafe and moonlight as a writer/journalist. I’d dread going back home because I received a slap on my face from my dad when he came to know I’d flunked an exam. My mother cried inconsolably. And it was all too much to take. I’d lock myself up in my room and play November Rain and Winds Of Change on loop while being an emotional wreck. Thank god for music.
I managed to pick myself up eventually and even featured in the top 4 in my department in my final year, got a job that I was sure I’d hate but it was nice to have one. I lasted five months in the job (including the two months of training) and I was miserable. I just couldn’t get a hang of programming no matter how hard I tried. It went way over my head. It wasn’t what I was trained to do and I had no intention of becoming a civil engineer ( which is what I studied in college).
But I made it to ACJ – I’d wanted to study there ever since I heard about it in school and in the midst of my catastrophic GMAT scores and a possible MBA seat at Anna University, this came as a big big relief. I was working at a great publication in Madras and all was good but I felt trapped. Invisible. Saturated. And that seems to be the theme of my life all along.
The reason why I’ve narrated my oh-so-colourful (not) life history is because I don’t have the vision I had as a 15-year-old. I don’t see myself doing anything exciting. Yet I look around me and see women, men, new moms, old people do sensational work: I know of so many people who’ve followed their dream and started their own venture, whether it’s a home-baking business or a dream library. I don’t want to be an employee at a big firm and slave for hours together for a measly paycheque. But I do want to create something of value and make some money and have a career in the process. I’m just not sure what it is and I don’t seem to have the clarity and the vision at the moment.
But I have time. I’m much more relaxed now that I’ve weaned my little baby and put her in daycare for a few hours on weekdays. Which creates additional pressure to be productive, to do something and monetise it because now I have a block of time for myself. Sure I read, watch my favourite shows, drink coffee, walk, talk to friends and sort out the home but I must do more.
I’ve been a big disappointment to my folks, both professionally and personally. And my overachieving family with its NRI CEO cousins and highly influential uncles and aunts clearly looks down upon me for choosing this life. For giving up my job. For being an average journalist without credentials. Of course, success is subjective and it’s what you make of it personally yet I can’t tell if my idea of success is my own or if it’s something that has been drilled down into my head by family. It’s hard to tell them apart at this stage.
But my quest to do something worthwhile continues. For now, let me slurp my Maggi noodles and binge watch Gilmore Girls until D is back home.
Title flicked from Money For Nothing by Dire Straits